Book: "The 6 pillars of self-esteem".
In this book, the self tells us that self-esteem has two fundamental components:
- Self-efficacy: means having enough confidence in our own abilities to face the challenges that life presents us.
- Self-respect: cque is the ability to feel worthy of exercising our right to be happy, and this implies: taking care of ourselves, protecting our interests, satisfying our needs and feeling deserving of obtaining positive things.
This book describes 6 fundamental pillars that will help us to develop a good self-esteem:
Practice of living consciously:
In general terms, this means taking actions and decisions in accordance with our ideals, values and life goals. It is very common that sometimes we make decisions almost automatically without thinking about the consequences they will bring to our life. That is why it is important that every decision counts and has the potential to raise or lower our self-esteem, for example: carrying destructive habits without thinking about the harmful results that may cause us in the future is a way of living unconsciously, so is not facing our problems but evading them, for example if we know that we are not giving the best in our work or that our relationship with others is deteriorating or that the financial situation we have is not the best, but even knowing all this we do not take action to change things, we are also taking the wrong steps in terms of building a good self-esteem. Therefore at this point it is important to have a greater willingness to evaluate the results that cause our decisions and actions, if we make a thorough examination we could find the causes of the situations that cause conflict in our lives and in this way we can get to resolve them.
Practice self-acceptance:
Sometimes we are going to have negative thoughts about ourselves, either because we perform some action that we later regret or because we are not getting the results we have set for ourselves. The idea is to begin to accept that it is part of human nature to make mistakes and that feeling guilty about it destroys our self-esteem; this is why it is better to look for the causes that led us to make the mistakes. When we accept that we have mistakes, that our habits or behaviors are not the best, we have the opportunity to correct them. On the other hand it is common that sometimes we experience adverse feelings about our appearance, before which we are recommended to first accept the things we can not change our appearance and improve those that we can modify, for example: it is clear that it is not possible to change the inherited genetics, but if we can acquire healthy lifestyle habits and thus significantly improve some aspects of our appearance. In addition to this we are advised to spend a few minutes every day in front of the mirror and affirm the phrase "I accept myself as I am". Doing this will allow us to build a more harmonious relationship with ourselves.
Practice self-responsibility:
The idea is to take control of our existence. It is worrying to see how many people blame external events for their misfortune, for their lack of opportunities, for their bad situation and to tell the truth this instead of helping to change the conditions keeps people stagnant. It is important to understand that if we have something in our life that displeases us or makes us feel uncomfortable, the best thing to do is to start looking for solutions and understand that if we don't do it, nobody will do it for us and nobody is going to save us or fix our life. And if we are not willing to take action we cannot expect things to be different.
In short, a victim and defeatist attitude does not help us to increase our self-esteem. To have self-responsibility in conclusion is to understand that our daily actions determine our results. But this does not mean that if you have discipline and are responsible, things will always turn out the best way, because sometimes the results may not be as expected, but at least we can have the feeling of control that will ultimately allow us to move forward.
Practice of assertiveness:
The idea is to be open, authentic and express ourselves honestly and freely with others, it is to have the conviction that our beliefs and opinions are important. Many of us at school, at university or at a conference have probably failed to ask something that is confusing to us for fear of what other people might think. The above is just a manifestation that sometimes we find it difficult to be assertive, we also lack assertiveness when we change our behaviors just to be accepted in a group or in a community, for example: if someone tells you that you should perform an action that you consider harmful or annoying for you, the ideal is to have the ability to say NO, no matter what the other person thinks. Lack of assertiveness is also manifested when we try to meet the expectations of other people, therefore it is important to act freely according to what we consider most appropriate, since ultimately we are the ones who have the obligation to make the most important decisions in our lives.
Practice of living with purpose:
The most important thing above having self-discipline, financial intelligence or many other things is to feel that the actions we take day to day have a purpose in our life. Certainly money can be important, but if you consider that what you are doing does not have a real meaning in your life or is not aligned with your most important values, it will be very difficult to increase your self-esteem levels. That is why we must set goals and ask ourselves frequently what are the plans to achieve them; maybe we want to study, have a family, create a business, certainly the goals are different for each one, but it is important to keep them in mind as this helps us to have a direction in our lives and consciously do the activities that allow us to evolve.
Practice personal integrity:
It is about being honest and making sure that our actions are in accordance with what we think and say. It is to avoid the double standard of saying something and behind our backs acting completely different. It is clear that we are not perfect beings and that we make mistakes, but the idea is to constantly strive to be the best version of yourself.
I too have been where you are now. When I started my dream of starting my own Medical Clinic and was the CEO, I did not know how to fulfill my responsibilities at work and be present at home with my family at the same time. However, after making changes in my productivity, goal setting and leadership, I was able to take my company forward through an economic recession the country was in and achieve positive results; all while being home in time to have dinner with my family every night.
I now teach the same principles that helped my leadership, along with my team, here at CIME Academy.
If you want to know more about our training proposal in aesthetic medicine, we encourage you to contact us. We will solve your doubts and advise you on what you need.
Dr. Manuel Rubio Sanchez
aesthetic doctor
